Budge,

Concerning the "bloody foot washing", that can be seen as God's victory over those who have rejected Him:
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Rom 16:20 And the God of peace shall bruise Satan under your feet shortly. The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ be with you. Amen.

In Ps. 137, it isn't the Lord speaking, but the Jews who were speaking in their sorrow.

Killing women and children, seen by the lost as "cruel", is in truth God's mercy on them:
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Is. 57:1 The righteous perisheth, and no man layeth it to heart: and merciful men are taken away, none considering that the righteous is taken away from the evil to come.

In reality, the lost are always looking for excuses and reasons to not come to God, and so when they think they have found some proof of His "cruelty" they see it as justifying their rejection of Him.

It isn't God's "cruelty" that the lost fear, it is His righteousness.

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